{"id":7777,"date":"2020-06-23T10:58:08","date_gmt":"2020-06-23T10:58:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sisschools.org\/sis-cilegon\/?p=7777"},"modified":"2020-06-23T11:01:26","modified_gmt":"2020-06-23T11:01:26","slug":"how-to-raise-successful-children","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/sisschools.org\/sis-cilegon\/blog\/how-to-raise-successful-children\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Raise Successful Children"},"content":{"rendered":"

Written by Ms Wilma Vina Luz D. De Leon.<\/span><\/p>\n

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Ms. Wilma is a very enthusiastic and happy teacher who has a degree in Education and Psychology. She is teaching English and Life Skills in SIS Cilegon.<\/span><\/p><\/div>\n

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“Educating the <\/span><\/i>mind<\/span><\/i> without educating the <\/span><\/i>heart<\/span><\/i> is <\/span><\/i>NO<\/i><\/b> education<\/i><\/b> at all” – <\/span><\/i>Aristotle<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

In this time of COVID-19 pandemic, people are going through a lot of drastic changes while facing difficulties and fears in their daily existence.<\/span><\/p>\n

Our graduation theme on resilience is aptly opportune because children should be able to cope up or recover quickly from difficult situations like what they are actually experiencing these days. In these changing times, we should put more value on the soft skills of our children as this will help them succeed in their lives.<\/span><\/p>\n

When we say that someone is clever but made a mess of their personal lives; someone who has acquired a fortune but is restless and sad, or powerful but intolerant and unimaginative, these are <\/span>deficits in what we call <\/span><\/i>Emotional Intelligence<\/i><\/b>.<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

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Emotional Intelligence is defined to be of four proposed abilities: <\/span>perceiving<\/i><\/b>, <\/span>using<\/i><\/b>, <\/span>understanding<\/i><\/b>, and <\/span>managing<\/i><\/b> emotions. And has five key elements which are <\/span>self-awareness<\/i><\/b> (children know what they feel and why), <\/span>self-regulation<\/i><\/b> (staying in control of one\u2019s emotion), <\/span>motivation<\/i><\/b> (working towards one\u2019s goals), <\/span>empathy<\/i><\/b> (comfortable to walk in someone else\u2019s shoes) and <\/span>social skills<\/i><\/b> (children can become great communicators).<\/span><\/span><\/p>\n

The benefits of having high EQ is that it helps your child to communicate better, reduce anxiety and stress, defuse conflicts, improve relationships, empathize with others,\u00a0 effectively overcome life\u2019s challenges and, I suppose your ultimate goal is, for them to become successful adults.\u00a0 Also, with high EQ, children would know their strengths and how to use them to their full advantage.\u00a0 <\/span>Now, wouldn\u2019t you want your child to have high EQ over high IQ?<\/i><\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Here are tips on how to Raise an Emotionally Intelligent Child*<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a01. <\/strong>Label your child\u2019s emotion\u00a0<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

You should put name to your child\u2019s emotion, for example, \u201cIt looks like you feel really angry right now.\u00a0 Is that right?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Show empathy<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Let the child know you understand how your child feels, for example, \u201cI also feel upset when I don\u2019t get to do what I want too.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Model Appropriate Ways to Express Feelings<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Use feeling words your everyday\u00a0 conversation and practice talking about them, for example, \u201cI feel angry when I see kids being mean on the playground.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00a04.<\/strong> <\/span>Teach Healthy Coping Skills<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Help them know how to calm themselves down, cheer themselves up or face their fears. You can do this by teaching them specific skills like taking deep breaths, by telling your child to take \u201cbubble breaths\u201d, where the child breathes through the nose and blows out through the mouth as if blowing through a bubble wand.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Develop Problem \u2013 Solving Skills<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

Help your child at least identify 5 ways how he\/she might solve the problem. Then encourage your child to pick the best option.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Make Emotional Intelligence an Ongoing Goal<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

There is always room for improvement.\u00a0 Use your child\u2019s mistakes as opportunities to grow better.<\/span><\/p>\n

Lastly, as Aristotle put it\u2026<\/span> \u201c<\/i><\/b>educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all<\/i><\/b>\u201d<\/i><\/b> thereby the significance of emotional intelligence is as relevant then as it is now. And on these notes, it is really crucial that we hone the emotional intelligence of children, in the same manner, we try to harness their academic skills. We aim to be able to raise children who are successful, happy with wholesome and balanced personality, so they can cope even in these troubled times.<\/b><\/span><\/p>\n

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Foot note:<\/span><\/p>\n

Amy Morin.\u00a0 Verywell family October 21, 2019<\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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